Marriage & Scripture Study

Num 36:5-7   5 And Moses commanded the children of Israel according to the word of the Lord, saying, The tribe of the sons of Joseph hath said well.  6 This is the thing which the Lord doth command concerning the daughters of Zelophehad, saying, Let them marry to whom they think best; only to the family of the tribe of their father shall they marry. 7 So shall not the inheritance of the children of Israel remove from tribe to tribe: for every one of the children of Israel shall keep himself to the inheritance of the tribe of his fathers.

Jacob had 12 sons, all the princes of Israel, and only within that seed line were the children of Israel to Marry.  Only to the tribe of their fathers shall they marry (if their father was Abraham, or even Adam before that, they are to marry only those of the seed line of Adam, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and Joseph (and so on).  YHWH was so strict about marriage, the twelve tribes were not even supposed to marry outside the seed line of their father, i.e. men of the tribe of Judah were to marry women who were of the tribe of Judah, men of the tribe of Benjamin were to marry women from the tribe of Benjamin, men of the tribe of Dan were to marry women from the tribe of Dan, and so on.  If YHWH was this strict, then what of one who marries out of the seed line of all 12 tribes?  Well, use Esau for example, he married two Canaanite women, and YHWH says, Jacob I loved (Jacob), and Esau I hated.  God hates it when someone from the tribe of Israel marries out of their seed line, the chosen people, and the covenant people.

Isa 62:5-7 For as a young man marrieth a virgin, so shall thy sons marry thee: and as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.  6 I have set watchmen upon thy walls, O Jerusalem, which shall never hold their peace day nor night: ye that make mention of the Lord, keep not silence,  7 And give him no rest, till he establish, and till he make Jerusalem a praise in the earth.

Just as Yeshua wants to marry those of us who are virgins, i.e. follow God and not the anti-christ, Satan, then too are women and men, to marry virgins here while on this terrestrial ball, we are to live under the Commandments of YHWH.

1 Cor 7:25-28   Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. 26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.  27 Art thou bound unto a wife? Seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? Seek not a wife. 28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

The Apostle Paul here says that this is not a command of YHWH, but his recommendation, that it is good that a man marry.  Yet if a man marries, thou hast not sinned (if a virgin), but once married a man should not seek a divorce.  Yet again, Paul states that if thou marry, thou shall have trouble in the flesh.  What does that mean?  Well, Paul is giving his personal opinion that if one marries, that the two shall become one, but, both have different personalities, different likes and dislikes, different habits, different families, then children, work, all of which can bring conflict and stress to a marriage.

Num 36:10-13  Even as the Lord commanded Moses, so did the daughters of Zelophehad: 11 For Mahlah, Tirzah, and Hoglah, and Milcah, and Noah, the daughters of Zelophehad, were married unto their father's brothers' sons:  12 And they were married into the families of the sons of Manasseh the son of Joseph, and their inheritance remained in the tribe of the family of their father.  13 These are the commandments and the judgments, which the Lord commanded by the hand of Moses unto the children of Israel in the plains of Moab by Jordan near Jericho.

YHWH did allow marriage within the brothers of the twelve different tribes, but not out of the seed line of Israel.

Deut 22:20-24  But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel:  21 Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father's house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you.  22 If a man is found lying with a woman married to a husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.   23 If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto a husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her;  24 Then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbor's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.

YWHW is very serious about relations between a man and a woman, and that any relations between the two should be in marriage only.  The penalty for sex outside of marriage in the Old Testament was death, and those who in the New Testament times that don’t obey the commands/commandments of YHWH will face the second death.

Neh 13:22-27   And I commanded the Levites that they should cleanse themselves, and that they should come and keep the gates, to sanctify the sabbath day. Remember me, O my God, concerning this also, and spare me according to the greatness of thy mercy.  23 In those days also saw I Jews that had married wives of Ashdod, of Ammon, and of Moab:  24 And their children spake half in the speech of Ashdod, and could not speak in the Jews' language, but according to the language of each people.  25 And I contended with them, and cursed them, and smote certain of them, and plucked off their hair, and made them swear by God, saying, Ye shall not give your daughters unto their sons, nor take their daughters unto your sons, or for yourselves.  26 Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? yet among many nations was there no king like him, who was beloved of his God, and God made him king over all Israel: nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause to sin.  27 Shall we then hearken unto you to do all this great evil, to transgress against our God in marrying strange wives?

YHWH speaks to the Levites about marriage and states that they, and men and women of Israel were not to marry, Moabites, those of Ashdod, or Ammon.  All mentioned were pagan people, Canaanites, worshippers of BAAL who followed the Jewish Talmud and not the Old Testament.  The other three pagan peoples mentioned were also pagan and worshipped other gods, and not YHWH.  YHWH states in verse 24, “YE SHALL NOT GIVE YOUR DAUGHTERS UNTO THEIR SONS!”  Then YHWH states that King  Solomon sinned by marrying strange wives (wives of different heritage/seed line), and that it was and is a great evil.

Mal 2:11-13 Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the Lord which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange god.  12 The Lord will cut off the man that doeth this, the master and the scholar, out of the tabernacles of Jacob, and him that offereth an offering unto the Lord of hosts. 

Even Judah married outside the seed line, and married a Moabite woman.  YHWH was not pleased with him and said that he dealt treacherously, that it was an abomination in Israel, and that he profaned the holiness of YHWH by marrying a daughter of a strange god (pagan god).

1 Cor 7:34-38  There is a difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in the body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. 36 But if any man thinks that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she passes the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. 37 Nevertheless he that standeth steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. 38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.

There is a difference between a virgin (one who is not married and holy sold out to YHWH), and one who marries.  It is not a sin to marry, but a husband and family will be a distraction to a wife, and vice versa, a wife can be a distraction to a man.  They care for things of the world and not solely sold out to YHWH.  Yet if one requires/wishes to marry, it is not a sin and proverbs states that the women/man who have lots of children (their quiver is full), are blessed, and we are according to Genesis, to replenish the earth.

Be blessed,


Harold is a teacher in Freedom in Yeshua Ministries.  He teaches mainly through scripture. 

Thank you Harold  for your contribution in this teaching.

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